Bath time. It has become my 15 minute break away from the kids. We have followed this routine where Brian takes on the lead to give the kids a bath and it is glorious. I get a few minutes to sit on the couch in peace or go on my computer/ipad/iphone and zone out. I take it as my government issued break; a parental right to take a mommy time out.
Brian took the initiative to give them baths when Violet was a baby. I think he wanted to create a specific caregiving duty that he can do because I had all this time to bond with her while breastfeeding. I’m sure I would have gladly given up diaper changes, nail clipping, or napping the kids, but I am happy he took this on. He is actually pretty good at changing diapers and will never say no if I ask him to do it.
I never knew that having 15 minutes alone time would make such a difference. In any job that you do, that 15 minute break to log off, step outside, decompress is so needed for your sanity and believe me folks motherhood is a job. A beautiful extremely rewarding job, but it takes a lot of work. In 15 minutes I can actually eat a cookie without grubby hands taking it way from me; I can listen to my Spotify loud and add more to my playlists; I can finish writing my blog posts and actually stay focused within my thoughts.
The break is needed for fathers as well. I have much respect to the men who take care of their kids and who are great parenting partners. It is a balancing and juggling act to read off your partner and know when to tap in and get in the ring with the kids. If you don’t feel like you are getting enough help from your partner, then just ask! If you stay quiet then you will make yourself miserable and it will create a bigger problem.
There you have it, my two cents as I take my 15 minute break. It is a short time to be alone and it can get interrupted by paying attention to the commentary in the bathroom, but sometimes when you have one of those days when being an adult is difficult and modeling appropriate behavior is just tough, 15 minutes is all you need to untwist your head around and become normal again.